JC monogramJoseph Cancilla
Field Notes
Essay

November 10, 2026

She Doesn't Know What to Do With Me

My thirteen-year-old daughter hates AI.

A father and mother walk hand in hand with three children along a wooden boardwalk through golden grass.

I've been living in Arizona for three and a half years. My primary company is an event production company. We do a lot of custom entertainment and event production, which has a lot of moving parts, a lot of logistics. I was drowning in that business, working fourteen-hour days for longer than I'd like to admit.

Being a present father this entire summer — I'm over the moon about that. For a very long time I was under the same roof with my kids and still not able to be involved in their lives, a workaholic dad stressed out about bills all the time. That's not living.

People want to kick against AI. People want to complain. I don't really care. Even my daughter, my thirteen-year-old, hates AI with a passion. She doesn't like me using it. She doesn't like seeing it. She doesn't like hearing about it.

We got into a really detailed conversation about AI a couple of weeks before I came back here. I said, do you remember the kind of dad I used to be? She said yeah. Well, you were never around. You were always too busy.

And now she sees the kind of dad I am, and she doesn't even know what to do with me.

So that's where I'm at with all of it. People can go kick rocks if they don't like AI.